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Dad’s Facebook Message About Daughter Perfectly Destroys Case For “Bathroom Policing”

by Dan Tracer April 22, 2016

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Some parents just “get it.” Steve Rudner is clearly one of them.

Rudner is a Texas-based attorney who sits on the board of directors of Equality Texas, a group that “works to secure full equality for lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender Texans through education, community organizing, and collaboration.”

It’s easy to see why he’s involved with the organization after reading a recent Facebook post in which he argues from a parent’s point of view against laws like North Carolina’s HB2 that criminalize transgender people using their preferred restroom.

The post gets to the heart of the matter, putting things in perspective:

“I’m the father of a 21 year old daughter. There are lots of things I worry about. I worry about her being sexually assaulted, because that happens a lot. I worry about her being the victim of a drunk driver, because that happens a lot. I worry about her being the victim of gun violence, because lots of people die from gun-related injuries. Here’s what I do not worry about: I don’t worry about her being attacked in a restroom by a trans woman because (a) it has never happened; and (b) trans women are the most victimized group of people I’ve ever met, and the least likely to commit a crime of indecency in a restroom, because they are afraid of getting beat up when all they want to do is pee. And here is something else I don’t worry about: I don’t worry about my daughter being cruel and inhumane to trans men, women or kids, because my wife and I have raised her to have values and because she is a kind person. There are things to worry about. and then there are things people want you to worry about to conceal their agenda of discrimination and hate. Wake up.”

The message has now been shared over three-and-a-half thousand times.

If you have a friend or family member who could use some common sense nudging in the right direction on the issue, we implore you to open a dialogue by passing along his heartfelt words.

There are a lot of things to worry about in our wild world — where people pee is not one of them.

Dan Tracer
Dan Tracer


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