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Curb Your Ageism, Older Dudes Make Way Better Lovers

by Graham Gremore January 25, 2016


A male sex worker from Chicago is setting the record straight when it comes to fooling around with older men.

“As a sex worker, most people assume that the majority of my clients are unattractive,” Clark Rogers writes in an article for Unicorn Booty. “This is untrue: most of my clients are rather handsome actually, they just seek sexual services based on convenience, not desperation. People also assume that most of my clients older men — and yes, they are.”

Related: PHOTOS: Guys Over 50 Are Super Sexy And Here’s The Proof

But Rogers doesn’t mind. He says older gents “have a better understanding of their desires and are able to articulate them clearly.” And, yes, they also tend to be more financially stable, too.

“It’s no surprise that our sexual culture completely excludes older gay men,” he continues, recalling a recent ageism workshop he attended at a national conference on LGBTQ equality. “One of the men in my group mentioned how gay media often presents young guys as affluent as a way to further glamorize youth. Another noted that images of beauty idols haven’t changed since he was a young man.”

“While the consumers have aged, the models have remained the young,” he writes. “Thus, our very concept of beauty has stagnated, pushing older generations out of the sexual imagination.”

Related: What Older Gays Really Think Of Young Gays (And Vice Versa)

Rogers then points to a 2013 survey that found 63 percent of gay men over 60 were living alone with no partner.

“When we refuse to talk to our elders or allow them into sexualized spaces,” Rogers says, “it only increases their isolation, and our own.”

This, Rogers feels, need to change.

“It is up to us to set aside our highly sexualized culture and create a bridge to our older counterparts,” he writes. “They need us and, if nothing else, communing with them will help lay a framework for when we too become seniors.”

“If we could find a way for senior gay men to share their experiences with our community–histories that are not being shared in a sex-focused culture–we won’t lose the most valuable thing we can get from each other: a stronger sense of our own identity, one that will last for generations.”

Related: An Open Letter To Ageist Gay Men

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