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Practice Makes Perfect- But Not Nearly Fast Enough

by Lisa Regula November 15, 2013

By Lisa Regula-Meyer


I’m a biologist, and as such, I care about the words we use for things.  Words, especially names, in biology mean a lot- they can tell us details about who an organism is related to or similar to, or some of that thing’s history (where it was found, who described it), and they can be very descriptive like the newly discovered ligament in the knee.  It’s being called the “antero-lateral ligament” because it’s found on the lateral (outside) side of the knee, and is anteriorly placed (or closer to the abdomen than the foot).  Names of things can also give an idea of when it was discovered, as trends in names have changed greatly over time, from being more honorific to being more descriptive.  Yeah, I kind of like etymology.

While there’s a ton of thought that goes into naming something in biology that we don’t think of going into naming everyday objects like “cat” or “ball,” to a person just learning any language, there can be a lot of thought in figuring out what words like “cat” and “ball” mean.  This is even more the case for new learners of any language- young children.  Trying to discern how general a term like “cat” or “ball” is, and how large a group it encompasses- deciphering what makes a ball a ball and not a cat- is tough work.  My cat is rather large and often curled into a spherical shape- will she bounce like a ball does?  This new ball is soft and squishy like the cat- why doesn’t it make sound?  From an adult perspective, these questions are ridiculous and sound like something a person on drugs would come up with, but to someone who is figuring out the meanings of words for the first time, they’re valid questions.

And then there are proper nouns, that have a specific thing to which they’re tied, but of course those terms are not marked in some way in verbal communication.  Thus, every bearded man wearing flannel becomes “Uncle Mark” until we learn otherwise.  Possibly the most difficult are those terms that can be specific or general, like “grandma” or “doctor.”  As adults, we know these terms are roles, and act as descriptors for the names with which they’re attached- I am Dr. Regula Meyer, noting both who I am and what I do; “Grandma Sue” tells both the specific person and the very important group of people to whom she belongs, grandmas.

Lately, Kenny’s been figuring this out with me as we talk about common names and species names, and he’s learning that not all “finches” are the same type of “finches” and how to tell them apart.  We’ve even stocked up on our bird feeder supplies, in hopes of continuing watching and learning through the winter.  Miss E, on the other hand, is learning more simple levels of this discussion, and trying to figure out family configurations.  What roles are there in a family, who fills them, and what do you call them?  She’s made the mistake a few times of calling either daddy or papa by the term “mama” because they were doing something that the “mamas” of her classmates do- baking, hugging, reading, and whatnot.  I’m sympathetic to this plight, while I can laugh at it, remembering all the times that Kenny has (and still does) call me “dad” or Dwight “mama.”  It’s rough building all those neural pathways to fix a language in your brain.  Even harder is having to make all those connections on your own, without someone who speaks “Babyese” to help explain the nuances.

Speaking seriously, this is why reading and talking to children is so important, so that they can experience words in multiple scenarios and make those connections, generalizations, and specifics more quickly.  Taking a more light-hearted approach, it makes for great stories when they’re older, about incorrect or inappropriate use of words as they were still practicing these language skills.  And finally, from a more reflective position, thinking about all the work that goes on to try and communicate, even with people closest to you and whom you hold dear, might give us a bit of appreciation for the tough life of a child, how they can expend so much energy and get tired so quickly, and maybe why tantrums happen to frustrated, tired kiddos who have spent all day trying to decide just what exactly “blue” means.

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