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Are You the Husband or the Wife?

by The Next Family August 22, 2011

By: Don Todd

An interesting topic came up while my husband and I had dinner with some friends of ours. They asked if we are offended if someone asks who the “wife” is. It’s one of the few times when I can’t seem to come up with a smart mouth answer (and that’s saying something). I just don’t know how to answer something like that. I guess it depends on who is asking the question, someone off the street or a good friend. I guess it could even depend on who in my immediate family is asking the question.

Our friends Ed and Todd put it best by answering, “we are two men who love each other. That’s it!” It is such an old stereotype that in a couple there needs to be a husband and a wife.

I brought up that the same question could really be asked of a straight couple, like these days when the female has the major career and the male is a house dad who takes care of the kids on a daily basis.

So I want to ask the question to everyone else in a same-sex relationship. How do you answer the question when it is posed to you? Are you offended if someone asks this type of question?



(Photo Credit: City of West Hollywood)

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