30% OFF Pride collection code: USAPRIDE! Free Shipping over $99

Letting Go

by The Next Family June 03, 2011

By: Don Todd


It is always hard to let something go.  It is also hard to let someone go. I know this to be true from time to time when certain things come up that I thought was done and behind me. There are times that I think that I have moved forward just to know that it is just under the surface. This past month two of those things have came to the surface and I am trying to figure out what to do with them.

The first was while writing the article about the effects of school bullying. Almost fifteen years later and everything came rushing back. Maybe it was the fact that I was sitting in my parents’ front room not far from that high school that contains memories of my own little piece of hell, or maybe it was thinking that my daughter might some day be in those same hallways. That thought has lead to many sleepless nights the last few weeks. Will my past that I have still yet to move on from affect how I react to my daughter’s struggles in school?

I am not saying that she is going to have any problems in school. BUT, if she stays in the same small town that I grew up in and my husband and I show up for “back to school night” I am just worried for her. There are other options for schools, but they are all private schools sponsored by the churches and I will save that issue for another post. All I know is that I have yet to let go of my painful school experiences.

My husband’s parents have a close friend that just lost her husband to a battle with cancer. They live a few streets from us and I was asked to come over Sunday night to help her with an issue with her car. It’s fun being the only mechanic in either family (sarcasm). After I had everything handled, she was thanking me and telling me how hard it has been without her husband. It reminded me how my grandmother was after my grandpa has passed away. For over six years after that we would call each other every week and “check in”.  She was my best friend and losing her was one of the hardest things I have had to deal with.

To form a bond with someone like that and then all of the sudden have nothing is hard to move past. I see how my daughter is with my mother and the bond that they have together. They live not far from each other and my mom watches Gracie during the week. I am amazed at what the two of them have taught each other and how they watch out for the other.  Gracie tells everyone that grandma is her “best friend” and that no one rates like grandma and papa. Not even her mother, my husband, or me.

I could not be happier that my daughter has such a connection with my parents, but I have a hard time letting go of how I felt and still feel when I think about losing my grandparents. I don’t look forward to the day (hopefully long from now) that she has to deal with the same.


The post Letting Go appeared first on The Next Family.

The Next Family
The Next Family


Leave a comment

Comments will be approved before showing up.

Also in Parenting

Modern Fitness For the Modern Parent

by The Next Family March 25, 2016


Originally published on The Seattle Lesbian

By Laura King

Life can get busy. With work, kids, family commitments, friends, chores, and the general chaos of everyday life, it can be near impossible at times to sit down for a cup of tea, let alone squeeze in an hour of exercise regularly. However, all things are possible if you set your mind to them. Those that prioritize their fitness nearly...

Continue Reading →

Estate Planning: The Basics For LGBT Families

by The Next Family March 25, 2016

With the passage of marriage equality last year, laws have been quickly changing across the United States. LGBT couples with or without children weren’t just given the right of marriage, they were provided new protections and benefits within their families. All of a sudden, LGBT couples and families had to figure out how to file jointly when it came to taxes, how to add...

Continue Reading →

Representation of Modern Families in Kid-Friendly Entertainment

by The Next Family March 24, 2016 1 Comment


By Alex Temblador

I recently wrote an article for The Next Family called, “Family-Friendly Films That Feature Adoption and Foster Care,” that shared wonderful family films with adoption or foster care story lines. My reasoning behind doing so was because every family deserves a chance to see similar families like theirs represented in various forms of entertainment.

The same can be said of other...

Continue Reading →