Cyber Monday 50% OFF SITE WIDE! Check it out now | Free Shipping + Financing Available!

Resolve

by The Next Family January 13, 2011

By: Danny Thomas

Well it’s a new year, and

As happens,

Maybe out of natural course,

Maybe because that’s what everyone else does

(maybe those are the same thing)…

I have been thinking about change

And resolutions.

I don’t care much for resolutions.

Here’s the thing;

I spent much of my teen years,

Like so many of us,

Filled with an antipathy for myself so profound

It was at times paralyzing.

I spent a lot of that time making lists

Of resolutions

In journals.

Ways I could be better…

Things I needed to stop messing up.

Ways I needed to change.

Eventually I realized that this was not a healthy pattern for me.

It caused a lot of guilt, negative feelings, inadequacy, helplessness…

At some point either through self reflection or good advice it occurred to me that a more enlightened approach might be to work on accepting my flaws even as I worked to improve my character.

So I guess I resent resolutions; they remind me of an ugly adolescent memory.

However…

Earlier this week

My daughter had her Winter Program

A 10 minute performance of a handful of holiday-oriented song type things…

The climax was Jingle Bells.

It had been rescheduled from mid-December, due to blizzard.

She and I spent the afternoon running errands

And hanging out at home.

We were all very excited for the program.

We had to pick up Jen and Zilla on our way…

I misjudged the time.

We missed the program.

I was mortified.

Jen was livid.

So, here’s the thing;

For me there is only one,

And really only ever has been one, resolution.

I want to be better.

I know we are human,

We make mistakes.

We are forgiven.

We learn to accept our flaws

But we want to be better too…

It is a force of nature.

Driving evolution, we want to grow, change, expand…

I make lots of little mistakes, I let people down, hurt feelings

Break stuff…

Forget.

But this was a big letdown.

All I could do was own up.

There was nothing to say but Sorry.

I guess, in this situation,

I learned to stop there.

So…

In some way

I got better.

I still haven’t forgiven myself…

I wonder which one of us will hold on to it the longest…

The post Resolve appeared first on The Next Family.




The Next Family
The Next Family

Author


Leave a comment

Comments will be approved before showing up.


Also in Parenting

Modern Fitness For the Modern Parent

by The Next Family March 25, 2016

e13db90f29f21c3e81584d04ee44408be273e7d61cb710479cf7_640_fitness-300x214@2x

Originally published on The Seattle Lesbian

By Laura King

Life can get busy. With work, kids, family commitments, friends, chores, and the general chaos of everyday life, it can be near impossible at times to sit down for a cup of tea, let alone squeeze in an hour of exercise regularly. However, all things are possible if you set your mind to them. Those that prioritize their fitness nearly...

Continue Reading →

Estate Planning: The Basics For LGBT Families

by The Next Family March 25, 2016

With the passage of marriage equality last year, laws have been quickly changing across the United States. LGBT couples with or without children weren’t just given the right of marriage, they were provided new protections and benefits within their families. All of a sudden, LGBT couples and families had to figure out how to file jointly when it came to taxes, how to add...

Continue Reading →

Representation of Modern Families in Kid-Friendly Entertainment

by The Next Family March 24, 2016 1 Comment

SidsFamily

By Alex Temblador

I recently wrote an article for The Next Family called, “Family-Friendly Films That Feature Adoption and Foster Care,” that shared wonderful family films with adoption or foster care story lines. My reasoning behind doing so was because every family deserves a chance to see similar families like theirs represented in various forms of entertainment.

The same can be said of other...

Continue Reading →