By: Shannon Ralph
A couple of months ago, I published an article entitled 20 Reasons My Daughter Isn’t Speaking to Me. Since that time, in true tween fashion, my nine-year-old daughter has continued her embittered vow of silence. Okay, lets’ be honest. The silence part isn’t so bad. It’s a nice break from the eye-popping, ear-splitting, door-slamming, come-outta-nowhere-to-knock-your-tired-mommy-ass-to-the-floor tirade that usually precedes the silence.
As I have alluded to before in other articles, my daughter is quite strong-willed (to say the very least). As you can imagine, a strong-willed daughter and a trying-really-hard-but-failing-epically-on-most-days mom don’t always mix. We occasionally butt heads (perhaps because, like me, my daughter can be a real butthead). As with all parent/child relationships, however, the good far outweighs the bad. I adore my daughter. She is everything I once hoped my future daughter would be. I truly worship the ground that little tyrant walks on. But when trapped in the moment, faced with a little girl oozing venomous hostility, the bad seems nearly insurmountable.
So what is a well-meaning parent to do?
Logic dictates that overt hostility should be met with swift sanctions. But logic really has no place in parenthood, as we all know. Through nine years of trial and error, I have discovered that the best response is often no response at all. In the moment—deep in the throes of warfare—the best way to minimize casualties and avoid future post-traumatic stress disorder treatment is often to simply bite your tongue and walk away.
That is not to say that I can’t vent about it afterwards. (My poor embattled wife plays referee to me and my mini-me more often than she cares to admit, I am sure.) Or later laugh hysterically at my daughter’s complete and total lack of sound and sane reasoning. Or better yet, get my sweet, sweet, revenge by sharing my battle scars with all of you. In this forum. On the internet where everything lives forever and she can read it one day in the heat of battle with her own boundary-testing, venom-spewing, psychoneurotic nine-year-old daughter.
Therefore, in the interest of sweet revenge (and to negate sky-rocketing therapy costs), I present to you 20 (More) Reasons My Daughter Isn’t Speaking to Me:
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