They say revenge is a dish best served cold. But how cold is too cold? That’s what one U.K. man wants to know as he contemplates hooking up with his cheating ex-boyfriend’s brother.
“I’ve been flirting with my ex’s brother for a few weeks via Grindr after my ex and I broke up about a month ago,” Tom writes to advice columnist and author of Journey to Fatherhood Simon Hill. “I caught him cheating on me with some guys. We were together for two years and were about to move in with each other.”
Tom says he was left “heartbroken” and “infuriated” over his boyfriend’s string of infidelities, and he now feels the man “needs to be taught a lesson.”
“I’ve been chatting with his brother who is also gay and he seems to be fairly up for a meet and muck about,” he continues. “He knows that we’ve split. So I’m wondering if it’s okay to have a bit of fun?”
In his response, Hill writes, “In a word ‘No’.”
He continues, “Not because it’s the right or wrong thing to do, but because you’re not thinking about what’s best for yourself. The saying goes ‘all’s fair in love and war,’ and sleeping with your brother’s ex would be just as fair as everything that has gone before.”
But, Hill says, “you don’t want anymore to do with either of them.”
His solution to Tom’s problem is pretty straight-forward: “You need to accept your pain, release it through crying, getting drunk with friends and maybe a one night stand with a stranger–anyone but your ex and his brother–then to rebuild yourself over time,” he advises.
What do you think? Should Tom go ahead and sleep with his ex’s brother as an act of revenge, or should he engage in some other form of self-destructive behavior instead? Sound off in the comments section below.