If you’re a closeted right-wing lawmaker or religious leader cruising the grids of Grindr for some steamy side action (and we know there are lots of you out there), you should probably be careful who you’re sending face pics to.
Because while it may seem like you’re on the cusp of securing a hot hook-up, you really have no idea who’s on the receiving end (so to speak) of those messages you’re feverishly typing.
It could even, for instance, be a reporter from GayRVA, Richmond, Virginia’s gay news rag.
Such was the case for one Southwestern Virginia GOP lawmaker, who was looking for some snowed-in company to cuddle up to.
In a post titled An open letter to the Republican House member we saw on Grindr this weekend, Brad Kutner writes:
As a gay man, I’d never shame someone for wanting to explore their sexuality as long as it is done in a safe and healthy way, so I hope you’re getting the chance to enjoy it!
It’s been a while since I’ve been single, but you’re a bit too old to be counting on low self esteem to get you laid.
Speaking of age, you totally lied on your profile – also tacky! (Google is an editor’s best friend.)
I know you’re obviously not out at work here at the General Assembly, but I have to ask why you would vote against a law which would have protected LGBTQ Virginian’s for being fired for who they love.
Self-hatred is not cute, by the way and is thoroughly an unattractive character or personality trait.
Speaking of self loathing behaviors, why did you vote against the appointment of an openly gay Judge? That vote was less-than-subtle on why and how it was targeted – with several conservative Senate members walking out rather than voting him in – but again, you sat there quietly and let the broader anti-gay sentiment at the GA take the driver’s seat.
Now I really wasn’t aiming to embarrass you with this letter, but I just want you to know we’re out there and we aren’t gonna blow you when you blow your chance to do some good for the community.
Coming out is a personal choice, but when you’ve been given the kind of power you now have, it’s pretty disappointing.
While Kutner and GayRVA chose not to “out” the lawmaker because, “he hasn’t been specifically vocal on LGBTQ issues” (though his voting record seems to speak for itself), they did include the screenshots of the Grindr chat, edited to protect his identity:
We can respect the decision not to out him, but that doesn’t mean we won’t welcome speculation.
Anyone want to take a stab at who this mystery man is?
Head here to see the full post, which may include some more clues as to who it is.