There are virtually no scenarios that make having a “secret relationship” anywhere near acceptable. Relationships work when they have room to breathe, to fume, to grow.
Keeping things secret — whether one party is in the closet or married or in another primary relationship — is like a pressure cooker of conflict.
It might not be today or tomorrow or even next week, but at some point, something’s gonna blow.
Below, guys let off a little steam about their secret relationship predicaments on Whisper: