Spotlight Series: Doug and Brent
TNF: How did you start your family?
DOUG: Brent and I decided that open adoption was the best way to go for us. We went through the IAC. It was really important that Brent and I knew the birthmother and had a relationship with her so that our child would always know who there birth parents were. Our amazing birthmother Krista chose us when she was 5 weeks pregnant we built an amazing relationship with her and she is like extended family now.
TNF: Did you always want to have kids?
DOUG: Yes, Brent and I actually talked about having a family on our first date. It would of been a deal breaker for us if the other did not want a family.
TNF: Where do you live?
DOUG: Atlanta, GA.
TNF: What is the greatest (and the toughest) thing about being a parent?
DOUG: The greatest thing we have experienced with parenthood is seeing our little mans eyes and watching him each day explore the world and knowing that we are here to help him grow into the person he will be. The Toughest thing I would say is no sleep..LOL actually he is a great baby the main thing i would say is as a parent we want to make sure we are doing all we can to be great parents. The toughest part is having that confidence in yourself to give him all he needs.
TNF: Does your family feel adversity?
DOUG: We would say one of the main things would be not having paternity from our companies this was a struggle. I had to take FMLA so that we could have someone with our son the first three months. We both felt is was important for one of us to stay home with Sawyer. We feel that we do have great support from our friends and family and we cherish them everyday for all they have done for us.
TNF: Do you have any advice for LGBTQ youth?
DOUG: We would say that always go for your dreams and know that whatever negativity comes your way use that to fight harder for what you believe in. Always be true to who you are. Life is so short so live it to the fullest.
TNF: What’s one life lesson you want to teach your children?
DOUG: We always want our children to know that we love them and thank our birthmother everyday for giving us the opportunity to be a family. Also never regret anything and learn from your mistakes.
Thank you for sharing your beautiful family with us!