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TNF: Tell me about your family. Are you married? Do you have kids?
CAREY: My name is Carey, my wife is Michele and our 3 year old daughter is Kaeden. We live near Portland, Oregon with our 2 dogs, Xena & Tazer. Michele and I have been together 10 years, had a commitment ceremony in 2006 and became Oregon Registered Domestic Partners in 2010.
TNF: How did you meet your wife?
CAREY: We met on a lesbian online dating site, PlanetOut.com. We met for coffee that same night and while I was smitten with Michele, it took her about a month to realize she was smitten with me too.
TNF: Do you feel different from other families? If so, how so?
CAREY: There are times when we have felt like we stand out (such as at our daughter’s preschool meet & greet, surrounded by all straight parents), but we often forget that we are any different. If anything, we feel different in a good way, because we are constantly able to educate others about LGBT families.
TNF: Where do you live? Is it tough being a gay couple where you live? Do you feel accepted?
CAREY: We live in a suburb of Portland, Oregon, which is an extremely liberal and accepting city. Being LGBT here is embraced and supported by the vast majority of the population. We’ve never felt discriminated against or uncomfortable being gay here in any way.
TNF: How have the marriage laws affected your family, if at all?
CAREY: We were able to register as Domestic Partners here in Oregon in 2010, which afforded us many of the same rights as straight married couples, including the ability to both be on our daughter’s birth certificate. That was hugely important for us. Oregon recently legalized gay marriage, so we are very excited to take advantage of that, most likely in 2015, after Carey delivers the baby she’s carrying as a gestational surrogate. She’s due in October and is carrying a little boy for a wonderful lesbian couple.
TNF: What has having a family meant to you?
CAREY: Everything! We knew we wanted a child from the very start of our relationship. Our daughter is the center of our world and makes every day more fun and meaningful. We love being moms and couldn’t imagine life without her.
TNF: Anything else you’d like to share?
CAREY: We hope our family can serve as an example to LGBT youth and those who may not understand or support gay families, showing them that you can be gay and still have a happy, healthy marriage and family.
Thank you for sharing your beautiful family with us!