Gay Dad Sound Off: All States Need to Pass Bills Forbidding “Reparative” Therapy for Teens

By Rob Watson
Born this way

A year and a half ago, California passed the first bill of its kind in the effort to create a state where truly the society is affirming and equal for all.   This bill has the added objective of making our state safe for all, especially teens and children.  The kids in question here, ironically, are also the ones who are at most risk for bullying and teen suicide.  This time, the issue is not about either of those dangers to them…at least, not directly… it is to save them from damage from their own parents, even though said parents in their hearts, believe they are doing good.  Or doing just don’t want the neighbor’s to talk.

The legislation states that a mental health provider may not seek to change an individual’s sexual orientation if that person is under the age of 18.  This includes efforts to “change behaviors or gender expressions, or to eliminate or reduce sexual or romantic attractions or feelings toward individuals of the same sex.”

The “reparative therapy” this bill seeks to limit has been regarded by The American Psychiatric Association,  The American School Counselor Association, The American Academy of Pediatrics, The American Medical Association Council on Scientific Affairs, The National Association of Social Workers , The American Counseling Association Governing Council , The American Psychoanalytic Association, The American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry , and The Pan American Health Organization as harmful.

The bill is currently under a “stay” order while it is being appealed to the Supreme Court.

The “ex-gay” movement of course claims this is everything from “unconstitutional” “denying parental rights everywhere” which is “usurping the civil rights of parents who support their child’s right to receive therapy for unwanted same-sex attractions, especially when that child has been sexually molested” to “fascism”.  They claim that it ignores conjecture about “the psychological and physical health risks of sodomy “ and is based on “biased information without consulting the ex-gay community “  (source: Parents and Friends of Ex-gays)


The California Psychological Association stated: “The California Psychological Association supports SB 1172 to ban the use of Sexual Orientation Change Efforts with minors. Our organization worked over several months with Senator Ted Lieu to modify the bill so that it protects minors from this potentially damaging intervention, while it protects legitimate therapy with minor patients who want to explore their own sexual orientation and identy. psychologists and patients.”   

Some point out that kids as young as 12 are at times allowed to pick different therapies for themselves. This is not other cases, however.  This is a case where the entire motivation to change is outside stigma, family and religious pressure. It is unthinkable that coercion would not be present consciously, subconsciously or unconsciously.  That coercion is the basis for many things that we guard vehemently against in the sexuality arena from statutory rape to sexual harassment.  I can think of no harm in asking even a seemingly willing participant from sharing, vetting but waiting until the age of consent for “feeling modification techniques”.

My message to other parents:

The healthy kid population of every state in the US needs this protection.  As a parent, I am vigilant over my responsibilities and I am a “Daddy Grizzly” in care for my kids.  I am not all knowing, however, and like my children, while I may protest and feel my autonomy is threatened by boundaries, inside, I welcome them.  I welcome being restricted on things that through my ignorance or carelessness, I may inadvertently put my children at risk.  I am not allowed to expose them to various adult material, substances, compulsion inducing behavior or to leave them alone in a heated car.

I would not even want my own dogmatic evangelized agendas (if I had them) to harm my children—no matter what.  If I fell in the shower and every lick of sense fell out of my head, and I decided that I was going to send my boys to some crack pot therapist to MAKE them gay….  Go ahead and stop me.  Please.  Seriously.   (And something tells me that the P-ex gay flaggers would do everything in their power to do so.)

I want my children safe.   I want YOUR children safe.   Mental health professionals have concluded that risks from these therapies include “undermining self-esteem, connectedness and caring, important protective factors against suicidal ideation and attempts.”

Our kids will all be living in this world together, and if you screw up yours with damaging mental manipulation therapy, it will harm far more than just them.

So, tell you what…  let’s let them all get to 18, have their childhoods and develop to who they want to be.  Then if you have worked your propaganda right, they will select the agendized “therapist” you want for them.

But.  I hope not.


Photo credit: Guillaume Paumier

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