Rachel: Daniela and I have been married since September 2007. We have a son who just turned 1 on Jan. 13 and a babe on the way (July 2014). We have very loving extended family in Ontario and across the USA.
TNF: How did you meet your wife?
Rachel: I came to Toronto to complete an internship before my final year of University. I met up with an on-line friend I had “known” for years to go bowling and my now wife was one of her friends that joined us! We had an awesome summer as a group of friends and then we began dating. We had a long distance relationship while I finished my degree and then I moved here and we got married shortly after.
TNF: Do you feel different from other families?
Rachel: Honestly, I feel like a very typical family with an awesome partner and a great kid. We spend a great deal of non-work hours together with friends and family. Our biggest struggle is that half of our family is in one country and the other half is in another. This means all of our vacation time is spent going to visit family and not on a lovely beach in the Caribbean! That being said, we are lucky to have vacation time and even more lucky that we have people who love us to go visit.
TNF: Where do you live? Is it tough being a gay couple where you live? Do you feel accepted?
Rachel: We live in Downtown Toronto and as long as we are in the city I often forget that we are not “the norm”. No one has raised an eye about it at drop-in centres, mommy groups, baby classes, or daycares. We obviously have some issues with paperwork that asks for the names of the mother and father (this was amazingly not an issue for the birth certificate). We sometimes get asked questions but for the most part I don’t feel unaccepted anywhere in the city. When we leave the city it is a bit of a different story and we faced homophobia issues before we were moms but now I think people assume we are friends or sisters and we just avoid correcting them.
TNF: What has having a family meant to you?
Rachel: Having a family has meant always having someone to play with. We have a ton of work that needs to get done but we find the best way we know how to get it done. It means knowing when to ask for help and when we need a break. It means going to bed at night feeling satisfied and filled with love even when you are exhausted, frustrated, and know you won’t get enough sleep. Family means laughing at the littlest things and then laughing at that laughter.
Thank you Rachel and Daniela for sharing your story with The Next Family.