Being a Single Surrogate
By: Kelly Rummelhart
If you remember, weeks ago I shared with you that after thirteen years together (and eleven married), my marriage ended. We are approaching four months since my husband decided to leave and I have to say that I’m doing great.
I have had several people say in so many words that it is awful that I am pregnant during this. I disagree. I think it would be awful if this were my own baby, but being pregnant with this surro baby has actually helped out in my opinion. Let me quickly explain:
I wasn’t able to turn to alcohol. I’m not a big drinker anyway but a few friends talked about getting together for wine, shots or margaritas, etc. It was much easier to say no, thank you, because I was pregnant. However, I have since started a whole board on Pinterest with yummy alcoholic drinks to try in August!
I didn’t go out and get tattooed. I have wanted more tattoos for awhile, but with constantly being pregnant or screening for surrogacy, I was unable to add any. With that said, I’m sooooooo glad I was pregnant because I’d probably have a few tattoos that I didn’t think through. This way I’ve been able to fantasize about what I’d like to have done and will have been able to have thought about it for almost a year by the time I do it. Again, I have a pinterest board dedicated to tattoos, some of which are ideas for myself.
I can’t sleep around. The first two listed would’ve been more so in the beginning when I was freaking out over the big change in my life. This one is for the next few months now that I’m feeling back to myself. First of all, not too many people are lining up to date a pregnant lady, so that helps. Also, per contract, any partner I have sex with needs to be screened for STD’s and needs to agree to be monogamous. Not an issue when you’re married but quite a big step for a new partner.
I figure my next few posts will be about being a single surrogate and I have about five other friends who are single and surrogates. It will be fun to interview them for the blog and also get advice for myself.
Kelly Rummelhart writes about her experiences as a gestational surrogate for gay couples. She calls herself a “Uterine Activist” and will be the first to tell you that her uterus is an ally. Kelly also writes at Just The Stork.com