The Next Family Interview- Carol Rood
An Interview with Carol Rood by The Next Family
TNF: How has it been blogging for TNF?
First, I want to say that it was very interesting to me how I ended up blogging for TNF. I started blogging in February 2011 with my blogging partner Susan, and we really wanted to be part of BlogHer. I had never heard of BlogHer so I was checking them out and saw a post by Madge looking for writers for TNF. I inquired about writing and was asked to submit an article I had written. I don’t actually remember what article I sent her, but I was absolutely THRILLED when I was asked to become part of TNF as a writer. I have to admit I have been “late” with my articles a couple of times, and the staff at TNF is so pleasant and polite, and they never fuss at me. They accept me even with my faults, and I LOVE being a part of such an amazing group of writers. The writers here at TNF are so talented. Reading their articles makes me feel so many emotions. Everything from laughter to tears, to surprise to anger at some of the injustices I have read about. Being a part of this amazing group of writers and staff makes me feel very honored indeed!
TNF: How is your family like every other family and how is it different?
My family is like every other family in that we are a strange bunch. I think every family is comprised of a group of people who alternately loves and despises each other, sometimes on an hourly basis. Just kidding! Really though, my kids fight like cats and dogs yet are fiercely loyal to each other. We like to do things together, but also enjoy our individual free time. We love each other, and to me that is what matters the most! I could say we are different because we are a stepfamily, but that is pretty common these days. Or I could say that we are different because we are a two-mom family, but there are tons of those these days too, so I guess we are different than other families because we have three cats, one dog, and some fish. I am assuming most families have fewer animal friends than we do.
TNF: Did your family accept you and your lifestyle?
My family was ambivalent about my choosing to live with and be in a relationship with a woman, but they were never homophobic or angry about it. It was not part of what they were exposed to growing up and it didn’t feel quite “right” to them. However, my parents have always loved and supported me.
TNF: What lessons do you feel are the most important to teach children in this day and age? Are there any lessons that we should help them unlearn?
I think that children are born without prejudice and without meanness. I think they learn prejudice and bigotry from their environment. I think one of the most important things we can teach our children is acceptance. I know the buzz word is tolerance, but I don’t think that goes far enough. I don’t want anyone to “tolerate” me. I want them to accept me. I want my children to know that every human being has inherent worth and dignity. That every human being is a person of value. Sometimes it is hard to see, especially if they are bullying you or being mean to you. However unless we truly believe that every person has value, it will be easy for us to treat them badly also. I want my kids to have self respect and to spread love and patience, not hate and distrust. If they can learn that, they will be able to pass those lessons on to their own children, and we can affect the world in a positive way!
TNF: Any words of wisdom to pass on to our readers?
I hate to c=sound like a “hippy”, but I truly believe that the way to change the world is through love, patience, and positive affirmations of others. If we can do something every day to brighten the world of another human being we have done a good thing. Sometimes even just a simple acknowledgement. Think what a positive affirmation a cheerful greeting and a smile can be to someone who feels “invisible” or unloved! A simple kind gesture can go a LONG way!!
TNF: Anything you want our readers to know about you and your family?
That we are like every other family. The fact that two moms instead of a mom and a dad lead our family has absolutely NOTHING to do with the value or worth of our family. We love each other, fight with each other, enjoy each other, and want space from each other, just like every other family. We are unique individuals who are sharing this life with each other. We don’t want to receive any special treatment, we just want to be treated like every other family!
Thank you Carol for blogging for us. It has been wonderful having you involved with The Next Family!