My Favorite Things- Surrogacy Edition

The Next Family

By: Kelly Rummelhart

I made a list a while ago of some of my favorite things regarding surrogacy. I decided to revise my list and add a few more things, since there’s a lot to love about being a surrogate.

* Filling out my profile, especially the part where I get to introduce potential IPs to my children and let them know why I love being a surrogate.

* Reading the profile of the Intended Parents . . . how they met, describing each other. (For George and Sanj I loved reading about their wedding!)

* Having a great match meeting- you leave just knowing this is the couple you’re going to help turn into a family.

* The excitement when your meds arrive . . . something is finally happening!

* Telling the IPs that you’re pregnant . . . and that your “high number” may mean twins! (I’m 2 for 2 on this one!)

* Witnessing the IPs hear the heart beat or see their embryos/fetuses on the ultrasound for the first time.

* Being able to blog about my experiences- and now twice as much!

* Seeing how excited your Intended Parents are . . . and how nervous they get as you approach the due date.

* Finding out what the genders are . . . hearing the ultrasound tech now call them the IP’s son(s) or daughter(s).

* Meeting other surrogates who “totally get it” (thank you Facebook and other blogs!).

* Seeing pictures of my surrogate friends’ positive pregnancy tests.

* Feeling that you are making a difference in several people’s lives, including your own.

* Seeing people’s reactions when I tell them I’m a surrogate- and the conversation that follows.

* Having the IPs meet and spend time with my kids -that way they get to know me better and also my kids can see, firsthand, that two men can love each other and have a family if they wish.

* Being able to educate people on surrogacy (answering questions, blogging, etc.)

* Babies!!!!

* The look on the parents’ faces in the delivery room as their child/children make their entrance.

* The tears shed by the grandma and other family members moments and days past the birth . . . including the hugs and thank yous for helping to make their sons the parents they deserve to be.

* Having my kids meet the babies in the hospital . . . a great lesson on giving and what makes a family. Plus, Ruby loves holding babies!

* Being able to go home and not raise additional kids – i.e. wake up for feedings, changing diapers, etc.

* Getting email and phone call updates on how things are going, including pictures and visiting my surro-families . . . . whether it be for days, weeks, months, or years.

* Knowing that even after the birth, we will always be a part of each other’s lives, even if just by a memory of the wonderful and exciting year (or more) that we grew a family.

* Referring other women to surrogacy. I know it will be AMAZING for them and I’m helping (indirectly) to create even more families.

Kelly Rummelhart writes about her experiences as a two-time gestational surrogate for gay couples. She calls herself a “Uterine Activist” and will be the first to tell you that her uterus is an ally. Kelly also writes at Just The Stork. 

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