By: Kelly Rummelhart
I made a list a while ago of some of my favorite things regarding surrogacy. I decided to revise my list and add a few more things, since there’s a lot to love about being a surrogate.
* Filling out my profile, especially the part where I get to introduce potential IPs to my children and let them know why I love being a surrogate.
* Reading the profile of the Intended Parents . . . how they met, describing each other. (For George and Sanj I loved reading about their wedding!)
* Having a great match meeting- you leave just knowing this is the couple you’re going to help turn into a family.
* The excitement when your meds arrive . . . something is finally happening!
* Telling the IPs that you’re pregnant . . . and that your “high number” may mean twins! (I’m 2 for 2 on this one!)
* Witnessing the IPs hear the heart beat or see their embryos/fetuses on the ultrasound for the first time.
* Being able to blog about my experiences- and now twice as much!
* Seeing how excited your Intended Parents are . . . and how nervous they get as you approach the due date.
* Finding out what the genders are . . . hearing the ultrasound tech now call them the IP’s son(s) or daughter(s).
* Meeting other surrogates who “totally get it” (thank you Facebook and other blogs!).
* Seeing pictures of my surrogate friends’ positive pregnancy tests.
* Feeling that you are making a difference in several people’s lives, including your own.
* Seeing people’s reactions when I tell them I’m a surrogate- and the conversation that follows.
* Having the IPs meet and spend time with my kids -that way they get to know me better and also my kids can see, firsthand, that two men can love each other and have a family if they wish.
* Being able to educate people on surrogacy (answering questions, blogging, etc.)
* The look on the parents’ faces in the delivery room as their child/children make their entrance.
* The tears shed by the grandma and other family members moments and days past the birth . . . including the hugs and thank yous for helping to make their sons the parents they deserve to be.
* Having my kids meet the babies in the hospital . . . a great lesson on giving and what makes a family. Plus, Ruby loves holding babies!
* Being able to go home and not raise additional kids – i.e. wake up for feedings, changing diapers, etc.
* Getting email and phone call updates on how things are going, including pictures and visiting my surro-families . . . . whether it be for days, weeks, months, or years.
* Knowing that even after the birth, we will always be a part of each other’s lives, even if just by a memory of the wonderful and exciting year (or more) that we grew a family.
* Referring other women to surrogacy. I know it will be AMAZING for them and I’m helping (indirectly) to create even more families.
Kelly Rummelhart writes about her experiences as a two-time gestational surrogate for gay couples. She calls herself a “Uterine Activist” and will be the first to tell you that her uterus is an ally. Kelly also writes at Just The Stork.