The Busy Surrogate
By: Kelly Rummelhart
I do WAY too much. People who know me constantly ask how I do it all. Well, the answer is: I have no idea. I am a juggler of sorts and truly think that if I get rid of one or two “balls” that I’m going to drop them all. But with my teaching gig starting back up this week, I just know that at this point in time, something’s gotta give.
Let me describe all my balls:
I am a wife and mother (my kids are 9, 7, and 4).
I own and work at my children’s boutique, Ruby Q’s.
I am an adjunct instructor at American River College. (I teach Human Sexuality.)
I just started a surrogacy consulting business, Just the Stork.
I Facebook for Ruby Q’s and myself personally (which includes 2 surro-groups).
I Tweet about surrogacy/personal life and my new surrogacy business.
I blog for The Next Family and at my own blog.
I follow and support other surrogates by reading their blogs and submitting comments.
As you can see, I am one busy lady. You may be wondering how the hell I pull off being a pregnant surrogate at times. Well, that’s easy. I just do everything I usually do, but with some “company”. Being a surrogate is the easiest of all the things I do and has one of the biggest emotional rewards. I have very easy pregnancies, which usually include limited morning sickness and minimal complications. Even when I have issues like swelling, it may look horrible but doesn’t really feel bad. Heck, even the genetic betrayal that is my wide hips make this part of my life a genetic gift. I guess it’s all in the way you look at it.
But however I look at it, I know that I’ve got to let something go. There needs to be a decision to slough off something so that I will be able to do less so I can spend more time with my family . . . but what should that be?
Kelly Rummelhart writes about her experiences as a two-time gestational surrogate for gay couples. She calls herself a “Uterine Activist” and will be the first to tell you that her uterus is an ally. Kelly also writes at Just The Stork