Mom of Multiples: Lost Control
By: Kacie Bernstein
I have lost complete control of my children. I am actually writing this while my kids are fast asleep on the couch. I should be thrilled, but this was almost a two-hour battle…and I lost. After screaming, banging on the door, and taking away my son’s pacifier (his prized possession), I finally took them out. I just wanted one hour of quiet time and resorted to the second best thing, Yo Gabba Gabba. They actually listened and were resting on the couch. I came back five minutes later and they were both fast asleep.
What happened to the parent being in control? Since day one, my kids have been on a very strict schedule, when you have two kids it’s the only way to keep your sanity. Everyone always says that it’s all about consistency, but sometimes I feel like it’s more about survival of the fittest.
We recently signed up for a music class. My kids love listening to music, dancing and playing all kinds of instruments. What should have been an hour of fun has now turned into pure dread. Every time a song ends my son is at the door saying bye-bye, plus he is the only child who refuses to sit…and now my daughter is beginning to copy him. My husband and in-laws took them and everything was fine –the teacher confirmed their story –but for me, it is torture.
Why do children always act differently around their predominant parent? I have actually set up a meeting with our pediatrician to find out what I am doing wrong or what I can do differently. I called both my husband and mom in tears today while my kids were clearly not napping in their room. In an ideal situation we would separate them, but right now that is not an option, so I guess we will just have to see what happens.
Please know that you are not alone…if you need any reassurance just come to my house for a visit, it might just make you feel better!