By: Kacie Bernstein
Double the Trouble, HOW DO YOU DO IT?, I could NEVER…are just a few of the comments I have become accustomed to hearing since my almost-19-month-old twins were born.
When the babies were two weeks old, our pediatrician gave us the green light to take them out for walks, but I had no idea what was in store for me. Our “limo”, otherwise known as the double snap n’ go, soon turned us into a freak show. I must admit, the stroller did take up half a city block and had the turning radius of a tricycle, but I had no idea it would draw so much attention from complete strangers.
After being on modified bed rest for 12 weeks, all I wanted was to take my new babies out and get some fresh air. Since they were so small I would keep them covered with blankets to block the sun…which meant that no one could actually see them, but somehow we were still stopped every five seconds. As a brand-new mom of twins, the last thing you want to hear are negative comments from people you don’t even know. The amazing part is that people still felt the need to stop us and ask silly questions. One of my very favorites is when we are asked if they are identical. I say that because I have boy/girl twins, so my response at times is “no, one has a penis!”
Out of all the comments people make, the worst is when they ask if my babies are natural. I understand people’s curiosity and fascination with the multiples boom, but it’s really not anyone’s business, especially someone off the street. All babies are natural no matter how they were conceived; no one asks a singleton parent if her child is “natural”. Why does everyone just assume that fertility treatments were involved? Can’t they just be happy for someone who brought a new life -or two -into the world? It’s like our moms always told us…if you don’t have something nice to say, don’t say anything at all.
Although my life is a little hectic…ok, very hectic, I feel so blessed to have these two babies, and I can’t wait to watch them grow!