A Gay Dad’s Adoption Journey: And Then There Were Four

By: Henry Amador-Batten As I write on this beautiful crisp and sunny March morning, there are two things that I am immediately grateful for, first is the Sun beating on my face though the sitting room window, it’s long overdue and oh so needed and secondly are the sounds of my husband working in the yard as my two sons yell and laugh chasing imaginary butterflies in big green nets. That’s the...

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A Gay Dad Inches His Way Towards Fatherhood

By Henry Amador I recently shared with you how my husband and I were hoping our adoption search for our second child was nearing its end I wrote that article in December based on a child that I found on our agency’s list of children needing homes and who were already cleared for adoption. His photo, story and video had moved me to the point of reaching out and asking for more information. That...

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The Perks Of Being An Older Gay DAd

By Henry Amador-Batten I am a 52-year-old stay at home father to an extremely active and energetic four-year old. There are times throughout the course of a typical day where I just don’t know how I’ll make it to his bedtime. Sadly I have to admit that my bedtime is never too far behind and yet I just can’t imagine doing or being anything other than his dad right now. We are also hoping to bring...

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Gay Dads, Turkey Basters and Baby Number 2

By Henry Amador-Batten So my husband and I have been struggling over which one of us should carry our next child. It makes perfect sense, from the outside, that I should carry the baby, after all I am already home with our first son.                                                                                                                ...

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Could this Gay Dad’s Adoption Search Be Nearing It’s End?

By Henry Amador-Batten I was browsing through the list of children waiting for families on our local agencies adoption site when I happened across his profile. He was five nearly turning six and there was something in his eyes that spoke to me. I can’t tell you what the connection was but it was there and undeniable.I even went so far as to contact my agency worker to get more information about...

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A Gay Dad’s Grown Up Christmas List

By Henry Amador-Batten We just took my son to see Santa yesterday. It was his fifth time sitting on Old Saint Nick’s lap and we were once again surprised by what he asked Santa for. Regardless of ALL the things he asks for leading up to Christmas and Hanukkah, his MO has become to ask for some random item at that very crucial moment, you know, while he’s got the old guys attention.So Ben, what...

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If We Could Say 3 Things To The Birth Parent

By Brad and Justin Fourteen months ago my husband and I embarked on what could be one of the most scary, yet rewarding, journeys we would embark upon as a couple – growing our family through open adoption.  It’s no secret that no matter how bad we wanted a child, the two of us alone couldn’t make that happen.  Choosing open adoption to grow our family opened up an entire new set of thoughts and...

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A Gay Dad and Writer Gives Thanks

By Henry Amador-Batten This is the time of year that writers and bloggers generally love. It’s a joyful and special time that is full of wonder and memories and traditions. It makes for especially warm and receptive articles that touch our readers in those warm and fuzzy holiday ways.It’s also when we get to pull out family recipes and prepare our homes to welcome friends and loved ones. It’s...

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1 Million Moms Misses the Point with American Girl Foster Care Article

By Alex Temblador Facebook: Rob Scheer American Girl Magazine featured 11-year-old Amaya, who tells her story about being in the foster care system and being adopted. Her adopted father, Rob Scheer, was also in foster care and started a charity called Comfort Casesto help other foster care children. Amaya shares in the article that her and her father never liked carrying trash bags of their...

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A Gay Dad Wonders If The More Things Change The More They Stay The Same

By Henry Amador So if you have been following our journey to adopt our second child you know that this time we chose to work with the Foster Care system here in our State of North Carolina rather than go with a private adoption like we did to adopt our boy four years ago in Florida. We went into this adventure with great optimism and hope given the recent changes in laws and the apparent new...

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