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What Not To Say To Prospective Adoptive Parents. And What To Say Back

By Jillian Lauren

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Would you walk up to a pregnant woman and tell her about your friend’s cousin’s daughter whose infant died of a rare disease, offer her the unsolicited tale of your hairdresser’s daughter’s home birth gone wrong, tell her about every mother you know visiting her teenager in rehab, etc.? Would you walk up to a woman expecting a baby and volunteer every horrific possibility...

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A Review Of When Green Becomes Tomatoes

By Jillian Lauren

Tariku

First of all, go order Julie Fogliano’s When Green Becomes Tomatoes right this minute. Go ahead, I’ll wait.  Run-don’t-walk next Tuesday and get it at your local independent bookstore.

Okay, well done. You’ll thank me! Now I’ll tell you a little story about this gem of a book…

Bright Eyes has a language delay and my big genius therapeutic plan is to talk to him pretty much...

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Adoption Baby Book: More Room On The Couch

By Jillian Lauren

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I’ve been working on Bright Eyes’ life-book lately. I used My Family, My Journeyfor Tariku, and I liked it so much I bought another one. A lifebook is the adoption equivalent of a baby book, but has a more expansive focus, documenting not just milestones but also history. I appreciate this particular template because it holds a space for many different kinds of experiences. I...

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Massive Mom Fail

By Jillian Lauren

Mom Fail

Does that look like a photo of a terrible mother to you?

Friends, I yelled at my kids so badly yesterday. I was a monster.

Oh, come on, you say. You’re exaggerating. Everyone yells. You were probably just like, Stop sticking pins in the dog! Or, Stop dangling your brother over the edge of that cliff!

Or some other totally justifiable yelling thing.

Nope. What I said was...

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Adoption: A Letter To My Son On His Seventh Gotcha Day

By Jillian Lauren

To Tariku on his Gotcha Day-

Jillian Lauren and adopted sonTariku Gotcha Day

I always love your Gotcha Day (remember when you used to call it your Cha Cha Day?), because it’s a chance for me to reflect on that pivotal trip to Africa daddy and I took seven years ago, when we first held you in our arms. I can still smell that unique combination of coffee and frankincense and popcorn that permeates the dwellings in Ethiopia. I...

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10 Ways I Take Care Of Myself While Parenting Wild Pirates

By Jillian Lauren

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A friend stopped by the other night and as I was busy burning some chicken for us all, I caught her looking at me with a combination of horror and pity. It turned out my bright lipstick (the shade I chose to cheer myself up) had migrated across my face, leaving me looking like some demented David Lynch character. I hadn’t noticed because I hadn’t looked in the mirror in roughly...

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Foster to Adopt: Holiday Huddle

By Jillian Lauren

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After months of hand-wringing and waiting, we finally transitioned a new three-year-old son into our home!

About a year ago, Scott and I decided things had gotten too easy. We were doing things like exercising regularly, meeting deadlines, having dinner parties, and keeping our hair relatively clean. We decided to go ahead and screw all that up and have another kid!

Our nickname...

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Project Based Learning: Cyborg Dinosaur Island

By Jillian Lauren

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Tariku wrote, directed, starred in, and scored (with a little help) this movie. All the percussion you hear is him playing! We’ve been working on it on and off for a year now. It’s definitely had its challenging moments, but overall the experience was such a blast, not to mention a terrific family experience withProject Based Learning.

It’s about two rival cyborg dinosaur...

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Foster Parents and Baby J: The Sequel

By Jillian Lauren

foster parents and saying goodbye

Baby J. came to stay with us again, for a week this time. Yesterday morning I kissed him on the head and buckled him into someone else’s car seat and watched him drive away.

Afterwards, God and I had a big long chat and let me tell you, it was not polite. I won’t reveal the exact content, but I will say there was lots of swearing involved.

When Scott and I got the call that Baby...

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Respite Care: When Baby J. Came To Stay

By Jillian Lauren

Hope key

As many of you know, Scott and I are in the process of adopting through LA County DCFS (Department of Child and Family Services). As of a few weeks ago, we’ve got our stamp of approval, so we’re officially certified and ready to do this thing!

We got a call last week that there was a six-month-old baby in need of respite care, which is when a child needs an emergency place to...

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Back To School: The Last Five First Days

I did a little round up of the last five first days of school…

  1. 2010. I loved his little outfit here. He lasted exactly 4 days at his first preschool. He was not, as the director put it, “Ready to contract when the group contracted.” Which is hippie language for sit still during story and snack. He was definitely more of an expander than a contractor. There were tears. Mostly mine.

 

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2. 2011....

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Foster Adoption: Making Space

By Jillian Lauren

Adoption

For those of you who don’t know, we’re in the process of getting certified by Los Angeles County to adopt a child through the foster care system. That’s a picture of our CPR/first aid training (if you’re looking to do it, we highly recommend Ron Calloway).

Whenever I post about some new phase of our progress, I inevitably get 20 well-wishing texts, thinking that we’re bringing a...

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