Parenting / Lesbian mom

Am I Queer?

By: Shannon Ralph

Queer

Recently, The Huffington Post changed the name of their “Gay Voices” page to “Queer Voices”—a minor change, but one that resonated with many people within the LGBT community and beyond. The name change was met with cheers from those who saw the use of the word “queer” as a step in the right direction. The term “gay” is decidedly non-inclusive of all of the wonderful depth and...

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An Open Letter to Joe Biden

By: Shannon Ralph

Joe

Dear Vice President Biden,

I love you! I love you!

Wow. That was not how I intended to start this letter. My intention was to write a serious letter expressing my sincere regards for your tireless and admirable work as our vice president over the last seven years. The “I love you” just slipped out. As a self-avowed lesbian, legally married to the love of my life, please know...

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Kim Davis – This Time It’s Personal

By: Shannon Ralph

Kim Davis

Until today, I have not written a single word about Kim Davis. In part, this is because others have addressed the issue of the fanatical Kentucky clerk with such eloquence and such cool composure that I am embarrassed by my own gut response. I have been completely incapable of discussing Ms. Davis with anything even remotely approaching composure. When I read about Kim Davis in...

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Parenting With OCD: My Daily Dose of Exposure Therapy

By Amber Leventry

 

I have this awful problem where I pick up my kids’ toys. Not only do I pick them up, but I put them where they belong. I make sure toys are settled within their individual sets containing 905 pieces, books are on shelves, and LEGOs are with other LEGOs and not scattered around the house in the 45 toy bins we seem to have. I put puzzles back together. I make sure fake food is in...

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My Son Wants to Wear His Sister’s Clothes

By: Amber Leventry

Ryan in dress

“Don’t trip on your dress,” I said this to my son as he climbed the steps in preparation for nap time. Earlier in the day he had taken advantage of his big sister being at school and made himself comfortable in her space. He had also dug through her bins of clothing and emerged with a mint green and purple dress.

“Do you want to wear it?” I asked. He adamantly nodded yes. So I...

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The Great Gay Marriage Anticlimax

By: Shannon Ralph

Boys2Friday, June 26th, 2015 was an historic day. A day for jubilation. For contemplation. For commemoration. It was a day when Facebook exploded in rainbow colors and love flooded my Twitter feed. It was a day when my family was finally seen. My family was recognized. Legitimized. Sanctioned and admitted to the party. It was a day when love won.

It began like any other day. I awoke...

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A Rant About Rebel Wilson

By: Shannon Ralph

Rebel Wilson

Recently, my wife and I booked a sitter and went on a well-deserved date night to see Pitch Perfect 2 in the theater. I was a huge fan of the first movie and had been looking forward to the second one for months. I have a weird thing for crass jokes, white people rapping, big musical production numbers, and mermaid dancing. Oh, and Anna Kendrick. I would crawl fifty miles over...

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A Lesson in Feminism and Basketball from My Eight-Year-Old Daughter

By Shannon Ralph

Women's Basketball

As a born and bred Kentuckian, I am a self-avowed addict, and my drug of choice is basketball. More specifically, University of Kentucky men’s basketball. As such, this time of year—March Madness—is my Christmas. My Easter. My celebration of all that is good and right and holy in the world.

My children are not Kentuckians. They were born in Minnesota—a land where hockey reigns...

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My Daughter Will Teach You About Sperm, Not Synthetics

By: Amber Leventry

I could easily make this a political piece. But I’m not going to. This is about teaching my daughter about the love and biology that made her. Synthetics—fuck you very much D&G—imply that my children were made from something fake. And family’s story, just like many others, is very real. The Hello Kitty glasses my daughter is wearing in this picture? Those are fake. But pretty...

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Maintaining My Identity While Being A Stay At Home Mom

By: Amber Leventry

Stay At Home Mom

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I am sitting in the lobby of a ballet studio as my four year old daughter takes her weekly lesson. My partner and I alternate weeks when taking her so we each have a turn at 45 minutes of kid-free time. Forty-five minutes, every other week. When you become a parent, time changes; it becomes more than a system used to maintain a daily schedule. It...

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Does Not Play Well With Others: Seeking My Playgroup Soul Mate

By: Amber Leventry

playgroup for toddlers

I don’t like children’s playgroups. Not totally true: I like the fact that they are free and get me out of the house, preventing me from going batshit crazy while home with my 20 month old twin boys. I also like the part that allows my boys to do art projects with glue, because until my boys can restrain themselves from throwing food, that isn’t happening at home.

It’s not the...

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My Daughter Was Asked Why She Has Two Moms. Her Answer Was A Simple Shrug.

By: Amber Leventry

Lesbian moms and date night

I am a fixer and a problem solver, sometimes to a fault. I want to provide logical explanations. I want to understand. And I want to have all of the answers, not to be right but to make sense of the world around me and ease the worries or confusion of the people in my life. I also know some things can never be explained or fixed. One of those things is the ongoing bigotry,...

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